oin us for the Ultimate Relationship Program and take your relationship to the next level. Our Relationship Coaching sessions & workshops teach scientifically validated ways to build intimacy and dissolve conflict through interactive exercises, role-plays, and new communication skills to help deepen your connection with yourself and your partner. In The Ultimate Relationship coaching session, you will learn thought-provoking information and research on brain neurobiology that can help increase your understanding of the ultimate relationship method. You will also gain a fresh focus for meeting the challenges in your relationship in an intimate safe setting. Our approach is based on research conducted at the Gottman Institute and the research presented from the new field of interpersonal neurobiology incorporating ancient wisdom of tantra and new neuroscience of the polyvagal theory. Appointments take place in a beautiful setting in Dublin Ireland. The 12 Week Ultimate Relationship Program is Life Changing. When our relationships are working, everything else in life works so much better.
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
“True love begins when nothing is looked for in return.” —Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The Ultimate Relationship Program – From Crazy Making to Love Making
A passionate, thriving relationship is a beautiful thing that can give you certainty, meaning, and a powerful source of drive. What’s the secret to enjoying the relationship of your dreams? How do you spark passion and love, even in moments of conflict? Your relationship should be your greatest source of pleasure. If you’re struggling with your partner, or would like to take your relationship to the next level, we invite you onto the Ultimate Relationship Program.
When we meet our partners, we make an unconscious contract to help each other resolve emotional injuries of the past , we unconsciously pick or hire the perfect person to trigger this stored painful memory of our past , it is for this exact reason we have come together . Relationships are not a problem to be solved but an adventure to be embraced. Conflict is a gift to be unpacked , to embrace, an opportunity to grow , resolve and mature . Conflict can not be resolved at the level with which it was created. We hire the person in our life who is most compatible to help us resolve what is unresolved from our childhood. Our relationship lives in the space between us and it is sacred . This becomes the playground for our children . When there are only two options , take the third option ! Keep the space between you safe and sacred . Honour the space between you , by visiting the other by crossing the bridge . Cross the bridge with an open mind to learn , with curiosity and compassion , leave behind your hurt and trauma. Crossing the bridge is becoming completely present with your partner, listening without interruption, defensiveness or judgement, holding an unconditional space for your partner to share.
Beyond right thinking and Beyond wrong thinking there is a field , I will meet you there – This is the third option
Seven principles for Co Creating a Conscious Relationship with The Ultimate Relationship Program
1. The relationship lives in the space between us.
2. The emotional charged part of your partner is the child in them trying to tell their story , allow each other to tell that story by crossing the bridge.
3. We are energy that can be positive and negative , be aware of this energy by not making the space toxic .
4. When our partners exhibits bewildering behaviour , it is a cry for help from the child within them , the behaviour is a protection , get to know each other’s cry for help .
5. The stretching principle is based on the idea that every frustration in the relationship is a gift to be unpacked. Thank your partner for this opportunity to grow.
6. Release joy into the relationship. Play, joy and fun are all essential ingredients for connection and repairing any disconnection in the relationship, it is also important to direct our passion into the relationship otherwise this passion will be redirected outside the relationship and we will begin to feel the relationship is no longer working.
7. Create a compelling dream together as a couple. Define the relationship, be specific about goals and plans short term and long term. when we are specific we deirect enegry towards attracting and achieving our dreams and goals.
The Ten Commandments for Committed Loving Relationships by Hedy Schleifer
1 – Honor the Bridge: There is an invisible bridge that connects us to our partner, and this bridge allows us to visit them, and get to know them and “learn” them. Become bi-lingual by learning the language of your partner.
2 – Honor the Space: Our relationship lives in the “relational space” between us. It is like a garden whose soil we are tending. The space between us is the playground of our children. Keep the space sacred.
3 – Honor the Laboratory: Our relationship is a small “living laboratory” where two grownups, who are little children on the inside, can help each other become two mature adults. Carry a picture of your partner as a little child in your wallet.
4 – Honor the Differences: Do remember that “incompatibility” is a boost to your relationship! When two people are the same….one of them is superfluous. Embrace the differences.
5 – Honor the “Other”: Transform your point of view from: “The two of us are one…. and I’m the one!”, or “The two of us are one….and you are the one!” to “The two of us are two!” Each one of us is a unique individual on a joint journey towards relational maturity. Learn to become intelligent “in” your relationship.
6 – Honor the Safe Harbor: Create a safe harbor for your partner because when things are difficult, growth is trying to happen. Conflict is a friend! Whenever there is a conflict say: “A Conflict! What an opportunity!”
7 – Honor the Romance: Keep the fire going through romance: All day is foreplay. Gift your partner with at least 100 small gestures of love and caring every day. And remember to keep your relationship flourishing. There is a “Five to One” ratio of appreciations to criticisms.
8 – Honor the Gift of Frustrations: There is a 90-10 formula in any conflict: 10% of the energy of the current frustration comes from the present, and 90% of the frustration comes from the past, which is still buried. “The Past is a silent voter in your apparent Present.” Frustrations are gifts to liberate us from the shackles of our past.
9 – Honor your Dreams: Put your “wildest dreams” on the horizon because “Energy follows Attention.” When we dream alone it is just a dream. When we dream together it is the beginning of a new reality. Create a “joint vision” for your relationship. Providence will provide unexpected serendipities and gifts to realize your dreams.
10 – Honor the Silence of the Soul: Take time each day to just look at each other in silence, holding your eye contact softly, holding hands gently, breathing together, and letting yourselves feel that there is “All the Time in the World” just to be together, and that “All is Well.”
Book an appointment now for The Ultimate Relationship Program
Book an appointment today with Tantra Coach & Relational Psychologist Darren Maguire. Darren is the founder and Director of Embodied Tantra Ireland, The Trauma Informed Couple, The Trauma Informed Parent, The Ultimate Relationship Program & Trauma Recovery Institute. During a consultation you will learn how to be fully alive, fully present with a rich connection with self and your partner, this allows for the richest of human experiences. Learn effective communication skills, and “dissolve” relationship conflict created by affairs, projections, past traumas and attachment difficulties. This is much more than couples counselling. Couples counselling generally is not effective at all as it is based on a premise that there is something wrong in the relationship. We do not see it this way. We believe that the relationship is not broken but is a mirror of what needs to be resolved or dissolved within ourselves and within our relationships. Our Relationship Coaching Program is a clinically proven therapeutic approach which is based on research from the Gottman Institute, object relations theory, interpersonal neurobiology and dynamic psychosocialsomatic psychotherapy. A Ultimate Relationship Program session often results in re-connection, restores compassion, forgiveness and intimacy, teaches how to make authentic mutual amends, and rebuilds mutual trust for a new future together.If there is conflict in your relationship, try our 12 week Ultimate Relationship Program. If you are having sex & intimacy challenges in your relationship or would like to dive deeper into intimacy, check out our Embodied Tantra Program.